I have been a widow nearly 7 years now. I highly recommend this book. Please don't be deterred by the name of the book. Nora is spot on about what it's like to be a widow... the things you never dreamed you would have to deal with. The things people have the audacity to say to you. And even if you are not a widow or widower, please read because this will give you some insight as to how and what to say (& not say) to friends and acquaintances that have lost their spouse or partner.