I love Lisa Vanderpump. Her Business Savvy nature and attention to detail are one to desire. She knows what she's talking about and if the cast took more notes and advice from her, half of them wouldn't be in their situations. People upset with how Tom Sandy is being treated, he brought this on himself.
Are you upset that Ariana is setting firm boundaries for herself and is taking every conversation directed at her about her ex with grace and poise. She doesn't have to sit and listen to Sheana talk about how Tom has changed and is wonderful etc, but she does. Nobody owes forgiveness, ever. If Ariana chooses not to forgive Tom, she will be completely in the right. He betrayed 10 years of relationship trust for someone he's now talking about behind her back.
If you have no ability to interpret what is acting and what is real life, then I'm sure you'll be on Tom's side. When men are emotional and able to show their sensitive side, it's a great thing but it seems when Tom cries, it's always forced and pushed out as if he's thinking of something to make himself sad because the situation at hand isn't doing it for him. Throwing his hands in his face and pretending he's overcome with emotion, it's a great façade but easily seen through.