You women (adults) who choose to have affairs with a married man need to take some responsibility instead of acting like victims. You were deceitful and you allowed this person to manipulate you. It's so embarrassing to watch women be manipulated by a man because he is charming or because you couldn't help yourself, or you didn't feel pretty. Really? If you have no self-control, then seek some help. You are allowing this abuse and tearing up marriages and lives in the process. Take some responsibility.