Sharp, honest and dare I say encouraging to so many who have been growing through and witnessing firsthand an identity crisis with their daughters. A subject that brings tears to the strongest, most confident and capable of parents is met head on by this author. With grace and compassion this book gives physical and psychological facts that are often dismissed, lied about, and are labeled without thought to be simply intolerant. In a world where the words affirmation and acceptance become an ultimatum we can choose another route. In our haste to comfort we may have missed the mark, denied our instincts and thrown our developing children into irreversible damage. There is such a thing as bad therapy, bad theory and unnecessary labels. Development takes time.