Vishakha Raghav

Whatever i am writing may look like patriarchal. Please don't take it otherwise. Today I went to see movie THAPPAD. And i realized all the male characters in movie are incorrect all. Even Tapasi Pannu's father, whom movie shows as a genuine person, but he also was on fault because he never requested his wife to sing. Tapsi's Father in law, Brother in law, Husband, brother every body was wrong. Tapasi's husband slapped him in a situation when he was drunk, shattered and in a brawl with his Boss due to durty corporate politics. At that particular time Tapsi tried to pull him forcefully from the scene and in that friction He slapped her. OK WRONG WRONG WRONG. But can't it be solved by any other way except devorce breaking the family? Tapsi's brother's fionce (Not wife / neither family yet) was intervening into there family matter and taking things aggressively to facilitate Tapasi for divorce. His brother objected and told her to be out of this matter. Which was normal as per our society. But in movie he was proven as villainous. In other hand the female lawyer used his friend (hiding relation from her husband) for all the mental support, chat, fun etc.... Dumped him only by saying that she wants to start fresh. I respect self esteem from cour of my heart of every human being Male or Female, Rich or poor ..... but at what cost. At the moment of heat things happen. But it's upto a person how to handle the situation. One side is to end everything And otherside try to compromise I dont know i might be absolutely wrong. But i think i am confused. All i want to say that breaking of the family is very painful, I personally do not advocate violence of any sort against women or anybody, and slapping your wife is totally wrong. The movie is laid out pretty well I must say, but if u ask your self wat message it delivers, you do not get clear answer . The guy slaps his wife and all reasons given for what happened are wrong but why you see is that the couple were not unhappy and her self respect was never compromised as she herself says that she chose to be a houswife if you ask me realistically when he realised and apologised in the family court the take away message could have been on reconciliary note as it would really push couples to neva say die on love and bonding no matter what comes in between them as you cannot make a man bend down on his kness just for a sorry you can be straightforward and say it to him if things are going right