I bought this book 3 months before my 30th, All my twenties were flooded with relationships that were going nowhere. I always picked emotionally unavailable men, men who weren’t looking for a relationship. I was making these mistakes because deep down I have issues, and was scared of commitment. The first chapter spoke to me directly. I have learnt it wasn’t really my fault. I lacked self awareness. My parents divorced and being emotionally and physically abandoned by my Father programmed me to be afraid of committing yet yearning for love and intimacy from a man. I wish I found this book earlier, I would have made better choices. Oh and the part of being addicted to pain, focusing on the toxic relationship to escape the reality of my life, if that ain't the truth!