It's a good book. Many things are very logical but I feel this book still gives a lot of leeway to men. About the rubber analogy and men needing to go away when women are invested emotionally; although needing space is very valid point what does it say about you if you are capable of pulling away when your partner needs it. This book justifies men not being emotionally available at the time of need far too much. It's a relationship of convenience if you are gonna be there only when you want intimacy and to expect from women to stay put and only initiate conversation when men are ready put another emotional burden on women to be there for their men but gives Men leeway on not being there for their women