I understand all too well the old "mothers vs daughters" ordeal because I raised three daughters .. And it ain't easy. But, Amber I think you are too hard on Anna. As a matter of fact, I believe you are hard on all members of your family ... from your husband all the way down to Alex.
You seem to come across as a "know it all". That's never a good look. I enjoy you and your beautiful family and I wish you all nothing but the best. You should try counseling while you seem to recommend it for others. Please be patient with Anna. I couldn't understand for the life of me why it is so important for you to always be right. Like, what was the big deal about Anna not jumping when you told her to put on a jacket? She is 18 years old ford goodness sake and if she is cold, best believe she will put on a jacket.
One thing I learned from rearing three daughters is to PICK YOUR BATTLES. Was it that important for her to just do what your told her to do? Amber slow down and love Anna and just accept that she will make many more mistakes and she is not perfect ... Neither are you despite you thinking you are.
I do notice that you and your husband treat her differently than you do Elizabeth. You treat Elizabeth like she is perfect (at least more perfect than Anna.
Yes you have five teenagers and life for you is probably as difficult as it can be. Relax and just let them spread their wings and be the people you and your husband have raised them to be. Stop being so mean to your family.7.