If I could simultaneously give this book 1 star and 5 stars, I would. It is an incredible story that stays with you, and the characters slowly start to feel like your friends throughout the course of the story. This book will bring you pure joy and complete despair all within the same chapter. This book impacted me in ways I can’t explain, and it means a lot to me.
Though I agree with all the other reader’s complaints about this story: it’s gratuitously sad at points, and can almost seem ridiculous in its indulgence, but the truth is, it’s not entirely unrealistic. Trauma tends to follow people who have been traumatized if they’re not able to break free of old patterns and survival mechanisms, so it’s not implausible for sure. But at a certain point, I did start to get bored of the pain Jude was going through, just because it started to feel slapstick in its repetition and drama. This was redeemed, however, simply because I am aware of how victims will unintentionally perpetuate their own abuse if they are unable to move on. Jude’s life story does not seem unlikely or unusual from my perspective.
I do think the writing is fantastic, but my only complaint is that I personally wasn’t a fan of Yanagihara’s use of metaphor/analogy. Overall, I enjoyed her use of language and sentence structure. I didn’t think it was tedious like other people mentioned, but I suppose that’s subjective. I enjoyed the long-winded explanations of various feelings and settings, as I think it gave the story a very palpable quality.
I agree with all the positive and negative reviews of this book. It has its flaws, but it also has its perfections. I feel for these characters in a way no other book has ever done for me. I think about this book constantly, even though I read it years ago. It’s an incredible book, both great and terrible, and while I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone, it remains one of my favorites.