The main takeaway from this book is to put yourself first and have a strong sense of self respect and dignity. Women are conditioned to be too nice and forgiving in this society (hence, doormat). This book talks about respecting yourself so much that you won't allow anyone to treat you poorly. This is not a book with step by step instructions on how to find yourself a husband or boyfriend. Only you know what you like and what qualities you are looking for in a partner. This is a book that teaches you how to have so much self respect and such strong boundaries that you are letting go of low quality men who treat you poorly and attracting high quality men who know how to act right. It has sections on how to communicate with men in a manner in which they understand. Remember that it is always better to be alone than it is to allow someone to treat you poorly.