I love to read the quotes from the Bible. Then I see the author try to fit it in his own teachings as if he is following the Bible word for word. But if the people just use common sense and speak their feelings then I don't see where the problem is. Its not to set boundaries but to communicate.
If someone refuses to listen to your explanation for why they are feeling the way they feel try harder to communicate or let them move on from your life. I get ever explanation I need from reading my Bible. I can't follow this book.
Thanks