John Kirk

This movie is excellent if you can relate to what the characters are going through in their lives. Unfortunately, most can not relate. It's the agonizing situation where a gay man remains married and in the closet to be accepted by the Church. He knows that if he leaves his wife and comes out as gay he will lose everything. He's left with the choice of living in the closet or losing everything he'd worked for along with his loving wife. She knows that the two can not work. She knows that they have to choose. They try to give the church one last chance but they are competing with a younger version of themselves that are co-pastoring a very similar church without a homosexual sexual abuse scandal. I related because I have been there approximately 10 years ago and could still feel the sting associated with coming out, losing my credentials in the church, leaving my wife, and starting over as a 50 year-old gay man. It has all worked out but I certainly didn't know that at the time. It seemed like life was over for me and my family. I couldn't see a future. What this couple went through should be seen as a modern day coming out story in the backdrop of an evangelical, fundamental, Christian church. All Christians can learn a deeper meaning to grace, forgiving, and accepting those wounded by the existence of homophobia in the church. Lee Curtis provides a very realistic presentation of what a gay man goes through as he comes out to himself and faces coming out to everyone.