M Susan Peck

I like the women talking sooo much!!! I wish I could be on the show too because sometimes I don't hear my point of view spoken to. However, lately I experience Sonny becoming "righteous" when she speak to a topic. I think she needs to be careful. The topics themselves are interesting and important; its not the What its just the How, the Tone, she has begun to speak in the topics she chooses. I hear her saying.. for example regarding the recent event with Will Smith And Chris Rock. She said with an attitude of "I AM RIGHT" that Chris rock is a victim. HE IS NOT. I think Chris rock owes Jada Pinkett-Smith an apology. (And this has NOTHING to do with what Will Smith did. I think part of a definition of a "Grown-up" is one's chooses to NOT do/say/etc some things NO MATTER WHAT, NO MATTER WHAT, NO MATTER WHAT .... but I think the larger picture is more complicated than some of what I am hearing)Here's why I think what I think. There are forms of violence besides physical violence. There is emotional, spiritual, mental violence. I remember when the movie G.I.Jane came out, when a man/person referred to a woman as G.I.Jane, it was NOT a compliment! It inferred she was a "dike" and a lesbian ( both at that time meant derogatorily.) I watched and experienced those comments as emotionally, mentally, spiritually violent. I still experience those "jokes" as potentially violent. If your reaction is that I'm overreacting what that says to me is your saying its OK to make a joke therefore about an anorexic, or someone with cancer, etc. etc. And I remember women being told they had to take it. I wish he had checked with the 3 female comics if that joke was OK...(I think his joke about Penelope Cruz was in bad taste too-I watched her "take it".) I think there is an opportunity to have some deeper discussions about trauma....social female trauma... Jada Pincett-Smith's trauma I mean... In addition,when Will Smith Slapped Chris Rock I thought, "Did she ask her husband to do that."? I haven't heard anyone talking about Jada and her reaction to her husband because if she did ask him to protect her then that gives a different context to Chris Rock's joke and Will Smith's reaction. If you accept the premise that the joke was ( to say the least was in poor poor taste and even violence of a sort, then I ask Sonny what would you do if you saw/heard someone was"hitting" your husband, child, mother etc. with making fun of your loved ones.? Honestly, consider what you might do..... What I watched was everyone being in shock about the next thing to do…. That happens with Trauma a lot. BUT MOST EVERYONE seems to be forgetting the Classy Classy thing Sean Combs said/did which was to bring to event “back to Love”. I think that’s why they let Will Smith stay. I think that’s why there was a sense of relief and the event moved on. If everyone had reacted the way I’m hearing a lot of righteous hindsight, the THAT would have taken from the other person’s night and awards. I don’t experience the "Event" took from anyone else’s night or awards. (Can you tell I have passion about this...:-))...) Hope Sonny actually reads this. Thanks for your time and attention. M Peck