Rob Johnson

I am not a self-help book person. I was gifted this book by my ex after our breakup and thought it would be good to put aside my opinion on self-help BS and read it. I found the beginning 1/6th of the book to be real, blunt, and refreshing and thought that maybe I had found a self-help book that worked for me. I was wrong and had to force myself to finish each page of this toxic positivity-laden drivel. The writing and the message gets progressively gets lazier and repetitive, with the author spouting anecdotes, quotes, and toxic positivity sayings without explaining any of the context around them or why they are important to the message being conveyed at the moment. The amount of times the author writes something without any context, then says "isn’t that great?", is too much. In addition to the toxic positivity and complete lack of mental health awareness, there are typos all over this book. How did this get to be a NYT best seller when the author/editor didn’t understand the difference between the words "real" and "rill"? The author says that your truth is what you make of it. Actually, the truth is factual and realistic. You can’t make fantasy facts and then expect to be successful in your real life. Anyone that does that is only kidding themselves and setting themselves up for an even bigger punch in the face of reality. A direct quote from the author in the book: "If you truly desire to hang poolside with the president of the United States of America, and are he11-bent in your mind and in your actions to create it, it’s the truth." I am sure that anyone delusional enough to think that if they try hard enough to get poolside with the President of the US are going to end up arrested, in prison, and being treated by a Psychiatrist in a mental hospital. As the book delves progressively deeper into toxic positivity, the author gets really sidetracked with pitching her coaching business and how successful she’s been with elite clients who don't have any problems that are relatable to anyone not in the 1%. It’s hard to take advice seriously from someone who has had such an enormous amount of privilege, which is widely apparent throughout this entire book. Many times the phrases she says are so out of touch that it’s akin to a rich person saying "just be rich guys, stop being poor". Please, don't waste your money on this. I guarantee if you follow her advice word for word, you'll be in a bigger mess in the end. Find a way to get therapy from a certified professional. There are pay scale programs, and free mental health services provided by many organizations and governments. Just know that it will take time to find yourself a good mental health provider that you jive with. Don't take advice from someone who uses weightless words and incoherent quotes with no real discernible actions to help you do better in life.