Looking at reviews that are negative...yes its ok if someone has a different perspective... these negative reviews are missing the point. One person cant read this book and fix themselves... secondly if the person who reads it is being abused by their partner its a waste of time... both people need to read it and possibly go to therapy also... the mechanism of the couple bubble makes so much sense but 2 people who are technically suited still have to work together for the greater good. This book opens new horizons in my mind and just makes so much logical sense. The only slight negative I will admit is where he talks about our childhood and how a safe bubble was first established with a caregiver... yes thats a beautiful thing but our caregivers might just be glossing over issues because of unconditional love ... in reality both partners need to find common ground and try hard to find an equal balance for a relationship to truly work... highly recommend this book in general 👌 👏 👍