I haven't read the book as of yet but I am going to. My Beautiful friend feels I'm codependent. I thought I was just trying to make things better for her life and the life of her child. And I have .She feels like I don't care about myself . That I put her before myself.is true because she has been through it and she deserves to be treated good and kind. I love her very much. I will read the book to see in her feelings about it and me are valid then I'll comment about this