This book was referred to me by someone close to me who was dealing with similar trauma. I particularly liked chapters 7, 10 and 16. The theory is very simple and Mel provides excellent examples of how/when to apply the rule, also when NOT too. During/post reading the book I've had many moments of self realisation, where I've been able to remain in control of myself. I've also had a few moments of genuine satisfaction, watching people whom I'd struggled with in the past "let them" and then watch as they 1) implode and 2) witness their realisation that they can't blame me.
