I saw this movie today, on my mother’s death anniversary dealing with grief, and my eldest sister passing this past year, I woke up this morning with thoughts of “I have no purpose”, with heartache and heaviness. I felt alone. A friend of mine took me to the movies, to “get my mind off things”, I chose this film based off the trailer and because I love that old man’s attitude “get off my lawn” type feel. I ironically have a cat I describe as an old man who is like “get off my lawn”. I find it hilarious, because that is my spirit animal. “Leave me alone, I love my solitude, and complain about nearly everything while being self sufficient”. This is my ‘Grand Torino’ complex.
There was no other perfect movie I could have saw today of all days than this film. I’m not saying it saved my life, but it puts things in an EXTREMELY different perspective, even down to the relationships destroyed due to the hardness of loss.
It was such a beautiful film.
I have NO IDEA why all of the “professional critics” rated this film so low. Hanks and Trevino’s performances were only met with excellent caliber, the script was gorgeous, the process of loss, hurt, jadedness, and the feeling of acceptance of not only non-blood family, community, but acceptance of grief is a journey of humanity.
Most negative reviews are met about the main characters low points (not trying to spoil the film) and a trans character, being “liberal or PC”, but if you focus on that, you COMPLETELY missed the message. It’s not even about the characters low points or the trans character, it’s about the love and support that community can place to a human to make them feel worthy of living. I suppose those low ratings are provided by people who could never fathom being that neighbor, nor even the person who my friend was today just taking me to a film of my choosing.
This morning I woke up with a feeling that I have no purpose, this film gave me emotion that I can have a purpose.
It’s extremely rare a film can do that to a person, let alone an apathetic creature, such as myself, dealing with grief.
I cried nearly the entire film and felt like I just left a therapy session.
I beyond recommend this film if you are dealing with grief, even if you aren’t. It’s a film about humanity.
Absolutely gorgeous.