I have read many of the 5-star reviews and 1-star reviews, and I get both--I get the love and the hate. Yet I could not help but love this movie. My take is this: If you get it, you loved it. If you didn't get it, you hated it. Simple as that.
To me, this movie was mostly a refreshing take on the mother-daughter relationship saga, layered in the emotions that every mother feels when she finds herself in such a situation: "How did I get to this point with my own daughter? What do I do? And it explores what every mother must be thinking in the heat of these situations: "What would my life had been like if I had never gotten married? If I had become a movie star like I imagined as a kid? What if I was married to the woman across from me (at the IRS)? What if I had hot dogs for fingers? What is the point of all of this?" The Daniels could have taken the "Terms of Endearment" trajectory, like countless mother-daughter stories have, but they smartly chose a more creative take, and in many ways, a take with deeper meaning. Admittedly a mess at times, but Everything Everywhere is brilliant and surprising.
I get it because I have lived it at both ends: My mother and sisters, especially one sister (they are estranged), and my own wife and daughter (they have a good relationship now, but the 10-20 yrs were hell, thank god for Jack Daniels). The black-hole in the bagel, the kung fu fighting, the evil mistress, the rock falling from the ledge, all allegorical of course, but it makes perfect sense to me.
Again, some people simply don't get all of this, and if you don't, I can totally understand the 1-star reviews. The movie from that perspective must have seemed a mess. Admittedly, I had to watch it twice before I completely got it.
I highly recommend Everything Everywhere. Give it a chance. I winced myself at some of the over-the-top sexual references, but by the end I was in tears, happy ones.
I get it.