No matter how regretful or how much they have changed, the fact is the fact. The victims are never being back to be alive. The law system is weird. Because dead people are dead, when time goes by, their death means less and less and the crimes that they put in to the jail and keep being alive become more and more worthy to live in freedom just because they say they have changed and they are sorry. how heavy the responsibility is won’t change just because we feel regretful and sorry. We feel regretful and sorry, and okay, we know what we have done was so bad. Okay and other people are aware of how we change. Okay. That is it.
The fact stays on the timeline. Everyone of us just has to carry on with the fact. My dad gave me more than 2x years of domestic violence since I was a kid. I will never become whole mentally and I still have some obstacles to act very smooth with the society. Now he is old and people started to tell me he is still your father and children should take care of the parents when they get old. And they talked about forgiveness and how regretful I will be if I don’t forgive and just be nice to him if one day he dies. But I didn’t kill anyone but myself.
Those people definitely don’t understand what the life under domestic violence is like. I can tell the world I hope he can die sooner. So I can stop feeling there is someone in the world that I have to interact with and keep reminding those parts of me that were damaged by him. When he was young, he believed he could control all of us and thread us badly. He even tried to get millions of dollars from my ex parents when there was a marriage considered. When I decided. Or to marry my ex due to a serious consideration about the future happiness and how his mom used me as a servant level. My dad told my mom to tell me “ go to look at the mirror to see how you look like. Who is she thinks she is?” And he couldn’t get the money from that and got angry with the parents of my ex and started his domestic violence of vocal violence by continuous calls in a short period of time and for days.
Now he is old and he is an old man that I don’t give a fuck and I set myself free by not going back home. Sometimes I still feel scared he will just come to my city and my workplace and embarrass me in the crazy way he had been. So just because he is old and he can’t be that independent financially and he ruined his own life and spent his own money in a black hole way, I have to take care of him just because he is my father? What about ruined my psychological health, and my social behavior, and caused my 27 years of depression that I am now still suffered.
Violence is not forgivable, of course either the murder is.
Forgiveness is something made by human being that on the side of the worse harm. We don’t have to have forgiveness every time and for everything. Sometimes as Taylor Swift said “you don’t have to forget, you don’t have to Forgive. You just move on.”
(Unless the one who was killed was a rapist, the murder was the justice. that is the best way to solve the problem, kill them all. )