It gets a 4, because it made me think, though there is room for improvement. This movie alludes to many social issues and doesn’t have any neat and complete answers. If that’s the kind of movie you’re looking for, then pass this movie up.
But if you’re looking for a movie that addresses how people run from trauma, how the trauma response is always the same, how discrimination is trauma, how abuse is trauma, how abandonment and race relations are traumatic, how mental health is important etc. etc. this is the movie for you.
TLDR - If you don’t address your mental health and heal from trauma, your past will keep disrupting your life and you’ll traumatize others.
Cheryl/Neve’s poor mental health caused her to traumatize ALL of her children. She thought that the white suburban lifestyle would fix her internal issues, but once she started seeing her black children, that lifestyle became uncomfortable and impossible to live (not that it was ever truly attainable in the first place as a character says, “You’re practically one of us”.) That’s why her scalp was itchy, it was a constant reminder that her deceptive lifestyle was no longer a safe haven. She was forced to recognize the truth (you can’t run from trauma folks)! People with mental health issues need help and the signs are always there. Her black children were abandoned and abused, seeking comfort, love, and acceptance and were denied once again. Her biracial children were seeking the identity their mother denied them and have also been abandoned by mom and in a way Dad. There’s nothing for the older siblings to envy anymore. No one won in this movie. And that’s the reality for most people who are stuck in the generational trauma cycle.You end up pushing away the very thing you want most. Self sabotage at its finest.