Sharlene Cleveland

Good movie but starting to guess „period drama“ is code for „another all white movie“. Yes there was one stereotypical Native American character, but yea ONE.

Melinda and Robert were not in love. Ego drove them and divided them. Robert‘s dreams for the family were ego driven, status driven, and that’s not love. If he loved Melinda, he would have worked hard to find other funding for his project and guided her to adopt a child or anything to fulfill her. If Melinda loved Robert, any financials would have been shared and not tallied between the two of them. Real love is saying, „No“. If you want it, you can work for it! Melinda was tallying up her whole marriage. What she did for him always came at a cost and required something in return. She gave him support financially, so he would cuddle with her at night and one day be rich enough to pay her back. Robert was the wrong choice because by her nature Melinda emasculated him and then resented him for it, the same as she resented herself and her choices for staying. They stopped sharing a bed and she resented that and became angry. That’s not love. Love is not getting spending your marriage waiting to be fed up. Love is knowing when to leave before hate destroys the relationship. Robert reminds me of a typical man. He needs a lot of guidance from a strong woman. He can’t lose himself with a woman who truly loves him because she can lead him to the water and he will drink. Diana was able to do that for him and she loved him because she saw his heart through his passion for his invention. Melinda never actually got a chance to have that passion because he took from her and never had anything to give but himself. Without money or anything, Robert is broken, empty, unfulfilled. He is a bum. Do we really think Diana would have picked him up and bathed him if she didn’t know he was going to be a millionaire? She had motivation that Melinda did not! Robert finally became successful and took Diana with him on the ride, the one Melinda was supposed to be on. But, the problem is, her ego was hurt, her pride. Melinda told herself that he played her, but Robert was a bad investment that she held onto for too long. She spent years protecting his ego and hers and when she left Robert, she settled on another man that did not satisfy her. If she really loved Robert, once she saw his success, she would have been happy for him. 10 Mil was also enough for her to investigate whether he cheated or not, to ease her mind. 10 Mil is enough to invest and move on. She didn’t try to move on because she owned Robert and he was hers because she bought him with 350,000 and her time and energy. Her pride, not love, couldn’t let another woman live that life, even through Diana guided him to the millions, anyway. By the way, Melinda named the company, her pride kept her from seeing the real lawsuit was in the name. This movie made me think about the way I view my relationships with people. Instead of tallying what she/he doesn’t do, maybe we can see how deep our love really runs when we are just happy with what they do. If we aren’t, it’s probably the type that will anchor you (figuratively) in the worst emotions during the best years of your life.