For me, mmorpgs are meant to be played with your friends in a relaxed environment, you chat, drink something, give some break etc..Talk with new people, teach new comers how to do stuff etc..Add them to your friends list... Play more games together..
Shadowlands? It is all about dps race to finish m+ on time. no chat, no drink, no toilet.. one wipe and someone leaves which means you cant finish dungeon and no reward, all the time is wasted and you stressed for nothing.. you have to start another run where you should not have fun, drink, pee, chat, etc..
Noone tells noone what to do, since the time is ticking.. you lose if you talk with others....Shut up. and rush.. Finish dungeon on time.
This is shadowlands in a nutshell..