Anamika Dutta

Excellent read if you’re desperate to be in a relationship even if it’s unhealthy, abusive, and toxic. The author normalizes being in relationships with men who will emotionally ignore you whenever they want, come back to you whenever they want just because they’re from Mars. Valuable insights on how to protect men’s fragile ego because women are such needy, emotional, clingy beings that they can’t make a judgement for themselves, they’ll keep staying with these abusive men. The author tells us that men keep a score card for women and give you penalty points as if relationships are a game to them. If you don’t ask a man to change his own child’s diaper, he will give you fifty points. In some chapters, the author starts making sense by describing how women’s moods are affected by their cycle (which is scientifically accurate) or talking about how our childhood traumas keep coming back in our adult relationships, however, gives no resolution. He just leaves it at Women should just accept Men the way they are because they can’t help it. Men will listen to women only after coming back from their caves, at their own pace, in their own godly timings. Another thing I learned that men will just stare at your face if you say something like “the trash is full,” or “the trash needs to be taken out” as if you’re stating facts. It will stay full until you politely request them to take it out, make sure that it’s not a demand, the man must feel like he always has a choice to say “no” I feel horrible for the author’s wife Bonnie, poor woman has been abused her entire life and brainwashed by him. Basically the message of the book is men are men and men will be men, women should just learn how to deal with them. There’s no significant script to explain how to change patterns or how to be better, it’s just that this is the way it is and you must accept it. Great read if you want to give some more liberty to men and want to celebrate patriarchy.