Cathy Simcox

I think that Chantel is totally fooling herself. Pedro only wants to get a pathway into the US for his mother and sister, and they freely admit it. Evidence #1 I know from which I speak. I was married to a man from a Central American country, I sponsored him, went through the entire green-card experience, worked to get him a green card and SSN, and I too was in denial, just like Chantel. #2 I defended my spousal unit to the end, only to find out in the end that he married me for my money and access to the US. When we divorced, he ended up with $250K when we sold our home (which I paid for all of it, including a $75k deposit of which I was not given back), and then he got an additional $217K from my retirement accounts, and that totals almost $572M because I also had to pay more than $30k for his attorney fees because his lawyer admitted that his client was so dishonest that he didnt think that he would pay his attorney fees. And the judge agreed!!! Let me add that he came from a very poor country. His sister lived highly for awhile because she was employed in the govt regime, but when that regime failed, so did she. He and his mother lived in a shack. His mother made ends meet by selling lottery tickets, he went to work for a cruise line to make money and sent everything back to his mother so she could survive. The home had no running water; there were large cockroaches everywhere, and ghechos were everywhere in the house to remove bugs and roaches (they call them Limpia Casas - that means "clean house" in spanish). (And, I might ad, he blew through all of that money I ended up giving him, immediately after receiving it. Even his own attorney made me directly pay his attorney fees (over $30k) because he didn't trust his client to pay him because his client was such a liar! And yes, I was also ordered to pay his attorney fees because he had no money! Beware, Chantel, the US courts are not on your side, even though you are a US citizen. OPEN YOUR EYES! THIS WILL COST YOU DEARLY FOR A LOVE THAT YOU HAVE FOR HIM, AND HE ONLY IS USING YOU FOR WHAT HE CAN GET FOR HIMSELF AND HIS FAMILY. GOD, I WISH SOMEONE HAD HELPED ME OPEN MY EYES. This whole episode cost me 5+ years in divorce court, even though it was just the two of us, and we had no children. That should tell you how much the court system can de-rail you from what you think would be an easy case! He ended up using my employer-paid healthcare to assist him in getting his girlfriend pregnant (I have proof because I have a copy of his medical records that I obtained when we changed physicians), he used his status with me to gain citizenship, and then brought his girlfriend and her son to the US, of which he is now married. My ex-spouse also had his sister come live with us (she was here in the US illegally - she over-stayed her visitor visa) and then demanded that we find her a husband so she could stay here in the US permanently. I refused. Just be aware: 1/2 of your company retirement could/will go to him; 1/2 of your home's value can go to him; you can be ordered to pay your spouse's attorney fees because (and you know this about Pedro) your spousal unit can't afford to pay Pedro's attorney fees. YOU WILL FIT THE BILL FOR ALL OF THIS!!! DO YOU HAVE THAT MUCH MONEY??? Chantel, DOES ANY OF THIS RING TRUE TO YOUR SAME SITUATION? ALARM BELLS SHOULD BE GOING OFF. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT AND NOT YOUR HEART TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH! GO GET PROFESSIONAL HELP IMMEDIATELY TO CONFIRM ALL OF THE GUT FEELINGS, DOUBTS, ETC. THAT YOU KNOW ARE PLAGUEING YOU. AGAIN, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. IT IS TELLING YOU TO GET OUT! AND IT IS TELLING YOU THE TRUTH! BOTTOM LINE: GET OUT NOW! YOU KNOW IN YOUR GUT THE TRUTH! DUMP HIM NOW! OTHERWISE, IT WILL COST YOU DEARLY!!!