PANKAJ KUMAR

“Thappad "This is a terrible indictment of the way we live now , This film compelled me  to question the complicity that women make compromises many a times big or  small... They snuff off n sacrifice out their dreams , to maintain the domestic harmony , thinking family is priority or it’s what they’ve been taught to do by our culture or so called  society .... “simply and quietly “tolerating  the patriarchy, which is embedded deep in our culture that even women ,who are independent, intelligent , experienced , economically independent and successful can’t deny it,  contemplating what is fair and what isn't ? Thought provoking and a big question mark ? It's a lost battle n bottomless pit , if every woman wants to become like " the protagonist amrita " then our judiciary which is already overburdened will receive lakhs of cases in “family courts “ In our Indian society ,concept of family is deep rooted although domestic violence is not permissible ,at any stage of marriage; Actually “Forgiveness “is the central tenant of marraige , may be it's the hardest thing to implement" “Letting go “of your partners misdeeds necessitates you to let go of your own resentment against them" She says she wants to be happy , but was she really happy after not letting go , that" thappad" The important thing to know, is that “true forgiveness “in marriage is not a form of weakness, as it is widely believed to be.  “Its wisdom “but it certainly does not mean that im condoning man being physical with his wife , however letting go means that you want to let go ;of what happened and heal your relationship. No relationship, what so ever is perfect in this whole world, there are only “mature and immature relationships  “there are no “perfect relationships “in life ,in-fact all our struggles began when we are in search of “illusive relationships" " THE TRUTH WE RESIST ARE THE BATTLES WE FIGHT " Fact is , if one one partner is matured we can pull the relationship!! Human  beings are “two independent egos “brought up in different environments, different conditioning with different  “likes n dislikes “when they come under one roof to share lives as partners ,there will be differences ,   human beings are not creatures of logics , they are creatures of “emotions” “fascination n beauty of life is “accepting every relationship with imperfections!!” This does not imply that I justify physical " thapad " NO WAY instead, true atonement after forgiveness implies that the offending partner is now aware of how his or her actions have the potential to hurt the other.It frees you from “unhealed wounds “and resentment, which in turn allows you to flourish and make careful judgments in future.... The matter of fact is Sahab "ghayal too yanha har ek parinda hai , magar joo phir se uddh saka wahi zinda hai!"