I’m sitting in front of my laptop, having just finished *The Namesake* by Jhumpa Lahiri. I don’t know if I’ve finished the book, or if the book has finished me. From the beginning, I knew this genre wasn’t my usual pick, but I still wanted to try—Lahiri is a name known around the world, after all. At first, I wasn’t that invested, but little by little, the story pulled me in.
For me, a book becomes a ‘keeper’ when it lingers in my dreams, when the story continues in my head after I’ve turned the last page. *The Namesake* became that book. A name gives us an identity. A name can strip it away. The same name can crown us a hero or cast us as the villain. A name can build a life—and undo it in a single story.
It begins as a seemingly ordinary story of a middle-class family moving to a foreign land, where familiar faces are scarce. My interest deepened when Gogol, the boy at the center, received his name—one he grows to despise. Later, when he has the chance to change it, his innocent loyalty keeps him tied to the identity shaped by his parents.
As Gogol grows, he realises he doesn’t share much common ground with those around him. One haunting scene has his class searching a graveyard for namesakes, only for him to find that his name exists nowhere, not even among the dead.
That ache—of not belonging—is one I understood. In Indian families, parents often fail to realise their children don’t want to be controlled forever. They long for parents who can be their safe space, not just their disciplinarians. But friendliness is often seen as weakness, as rebellion against tradition. So, the cycle of generational trauma continues—dreams half-lived, values half-understood, and burdens passed down.
The losses in the book—death, divorce, betrayal—all felt brutally real. I mourned like Gogol for his father. I understood Moushumi, trapped in a marriage that never felt like home.
I could relate to her the most. The not-belonging. The fear of giving yourself away only to be destroyed. All my life, I’ve walked alone. No one to hold me when I wanted to break. And now, though I crave someone who belongs to me and only me, the thought of surrendering that power terrifies me. Because what if love doesn’t heal, but destroys?