David Pawlyna

The book was insightful, thoughtful and helpful. For those of us, who have had the bad luck to run into people with out empathy, who are malicious and bent on bullying. It's a helpful read to help you understand, the reasons why you are feeling stressed and helpless. Setting boundary's, grey rocking, and no contact are ways to keep your sanity. The book is even kind to the individuals that can't or don't want to leave the abuse. She gives context to your anger, anguish and confusion. Me myself, didn't have the knowledge to put a name to it. Just thought, Oh difficult people, but when you see the traits and patterns over time from the abusers. It makes perfect sense and you understand why there thinking is so cruel and nasty. Knowing that it's unlikely to change and your probably better off to go no contact. I have had a situation where my sister in law, pissed off, my mother so much that she was excluded from her will. After she passed away, they try to get this item from me, and then gaslight me as if I was to blame. Low life's and devote catholic. Don't say NO to a narcissist. Wow! Rageful, Blame and Lies just fly out of there mouths. The book helped me, anyway, make sense of the nut jobs, and there greed and alternative facts? Best to live your own life to the best of your abilities and conclude bad relations and to watch out for those red flags, so as to avoid any further confrontations. Thank you Doctor Ramani, I can tell this book was built on her clinical knowledge and personal experience.