My old boarding school hastens to assure me that things have changed - no more beatings, cold baths, huge communal dormitories, and of course mobile phones keep you in touch with mum and dad - but as Renton and Nick Duffell have emphasised, there cannot be love in these institutions. Support maybe, along the lines of: "Come on old chap, buck up, you'll get used to it", but love, no. How damaging is this to a small child who perhaps comes to believe that he or she can do without it? Or indeed that they themselves do not need to love anyone? Who do you love in a boarding school? Just at the age when children might get a pet as a present at Christmas in order to develop their caring facilities. Love in boarding schools is strictly supervised and usually discouraged whether between the same sex in early teens (a not unusual occurrence at that age) or between the sexes in a co-ed school where the need to prevent pregnancies means that the school has to be vigilant to the point of paranoia, in which case the pupils may feel that there is something unhealthy about it. Isn't it the parents' job to gently police these matters in a more relaxed, family setting? And isn't it the mother's job to induct her daughter into the practicalities of puberty and first periods? And what about the need for comfort when their first love affairs break down and those tough little adolescent cookies suddenly become heaps of weeping jelly? This is what families, not strangers are for.