Courage without being vulnerable is not possible. Her explanation of that helped me realize how courageous I have actually been these last three years. I have been accused of being emotional. Maybe... but I have been grieving and I have been vulnerable. Being vulnerable has brought many new people into my life that I am grateful for. Being vulnerable by not pushing stuff down and dealing with it has made me stronger. Has it been easy? Hell no. I have so much from the past 40 years of domestic abuse I want to forget. I won't be able to understand why the abuser chooses to THINK he is strong, brave and courageous. But I now understand with out a doubt he is NON of those things. He has never shown nor do I believe he is capable of vulnerability.