Sruthi Parameswaran

We often try to ignore the trivialities that steal our confidence, the very tiny gestures that make us inferior, that gives a man the power, the ownership, the unbreakable cuffs of being submissive, obedient wives, daughters and sisters. This movie for me was just asking WHY to all these meaningless gestures. I mean WHHYYY?!! Being a Christmas Tree on the wedding day with all eyes watching, the 5L brand new car and jewellery that weighs more than herself as dowry, the sinthoor that defines the mark of proud ownership, bowing serenely down to the thali(mangalsutra) that'll chain her to bow to him from then on. Men don't say no. They simply smirk & brush off the needs of women. Ignore or avoid or shout or make fun of it. "Mrs Manners", "Dance? Nice! But that wont suit us, dear", "Seems like you have a big problem with waste", "You call this tea?", "What work is there in the kitchen now? Didn't we do all the work?", "I should feel something towards you, for foreplay". Male ego is the most fragile of all in the world. Btw, who made men the decision makers of everything even?🤷 There are women who celebrate submission & patriarchy, who accept they are born to serve men & live life in the hidden dark corners of nowhere. Women who find undergarments offensive when seen by men, who go furious when questioned, who teach the cycle, to adjust and to give up on personal choices, who says "I went through the same & it's your turn now" and is wickedly joyous about this. All it takes is a No and a Why. But are we bold enough? Are women ready to raise kids swapping gender roles? Are men at once ready to change societal rules in regard with the needs and choices of women? Are we ready to look at religion & god beyond the practices? There are no answers given but the questions are enough. Enough to trigger our selves.