Sierra Jean

Thomas McAdams' review makes me question whether if he actually read the book. If he did he needs to read it again. This book is extremely relevant even today in 2024. I appreciated hooks discussion on patriarchal women and how some women can help reinforce oppressive gender roles and expectations with their children or even romantic partners through emotional abuse or by reinforcing the idea that men are to suppress their [vulnerable]emotions. I even appreciated hooks' discussion on how patriarchal women and society at large have helped silenced male victims of abuse (including physical and SA), it's a concept that is only just now in the 2020's getting the attention it deserves. And even today really the concept of [abusive] patriarchal women is not really discussed much, that's how I know it's bullspit when Thomas McAdams says that this book is "dated," it most certainly is not. It was actually ahead of its time when it was written. It's an important read that makes both women and men reflect on themselves, and even challenges the reader to rethink their approach to love and societal norms that encourage violence (even emotional violence). It's a healing read. I recommend it to both men and women.