In the ideal world, or a world, where the parent doesn’t work, and has endless time to actually parent just one child and no other events like other children and activities, this book might be helpful. It might also be helpful for the extremely over the top parent that needs to learn how to control themselves. However, a lot of the tips in this book Are only actually helpful if there’s nothing else going on besides focusing on that. It offers a lot of options to put the control in the child’s hands. Although I think it’s important to learn for children to make their own decisions, the way this book presented it is the child’s opinion and control is more important than the parents which is not how my parent. I do agree with how she presents changing the way word things to your children, but often she refers to waiting on the child. This is not possible so many peoples lives.